What We are Told About Feelings is Wrong We are not, as a culture, very good at processing our feelings. Many parents send harmful messages to their kids (innocently of course). Messages to toughen up, deal with their feelings alone and quietly, and whatever you do DO NOT CRY! It is ridiculous, and it is…
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Trump Triggers Trauma
Election 2016: The Aftermath There has been so much public discourse since Trump has been elected. In my line of work, I get to see the private side of what people are experiencing, the things that people do not feel safe discussing in public. Almost every one of my clients have been deeply affected by…
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Find joy…
What is Joy and How Do You Find It? Joy is a euphoric and fleeting feeling of happiness. To experience it, you have to be both completely present, and completely let go of your self awareness. Rarely can you be thinking about the past or future and be joyful. It happens in the present. We are…
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Be Accountable and Have Self Compassion (they are not opposites!)
Accountability and Self-Compassion One thing that almost all of my clients struggle with is the ability to be both accountable for their actions and have compassion for themselves when they fail. You know the cycle... Set a goal, try, fail, beat yourself up... Set a goal, try fail, beat yourself up harder. Are You Emotionally Abusive…
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